When there is an absence of love, a void in your life, you begin to search for love. This search is sometimes at a cost and often produces inauthentic love. In addition to accepting relationships that are not for you, that are unhealthy for you, you enter sexual relationships, looking for a man to love you, looking to feel loved. SEX IS NOT LOVE. Many times, these men are using you for sex, because after the sex, they move on and you do not feel valued.
Sometimes you become pregnant, either hoping that the child will create a bond between you and your lover, or you believe the baby will fulfill the lack of love in your life. However, it is more likely that any bond created will only be temporary, that the father will not be in your life, and you will be a single parent. Ultimately, you realize the love you have for your baby does not compare, and is not the same as the love you receive from a man. Unfortunately, you experience hurt and pain when you realize that none of your choices fills the void, and none result in true love.
