Forcing a relationship is counter-productive

 You cannot jump from one stage of the relationship to another without experiencing trauma or drama. You miss some key developments, consequently. Although you may attempt to recover or recapture these missed stages, serious strain to the relationship is likely to occur. Not only will forcing the relationship lead to a break down in communication, it more than likely will lead to a break-up.

Even when you reach a truce, and you try to make the relationship work, it becomes only a temporary measure in that the same issues exist. There are unresolved problems. Therefore, what causes the relationship to end initially, if not corrected, will cause the relationship to end ultimately.

Mr. Waiting in the Wings

He is always there; he is always standing by. He is friendly with you, with your mate, your spouse, so that he knows about your relationship. He watches your relationship, waiting for it to fail, waiting for you to need him. He is the person who offers, “You know I’m here for you, if you need me.” He is deceptive; he is opportunistic; he is the snake in the grass waiting to strike, waiting for a sexual relationship with you. He derives a sense of joy, of pride from the conquest, and he keeps score.

Fake it until you make it

 Do not let him see you sweat; do not let him see you suffer. When you see him in public, especially if he is with another woman, smile and be kind, even if you are not over him. Eventually, you will realize that it does not hurt as much, and soon, it will not hurt at all – you have moved past him.

Do not self-deprecate

That is, do not put yourself down, do not belittle yourself, do not devalue your self-worth. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT. Yes, you may have played a role in the reason why the relationship ended. However, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, the relationship failed. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to make it work, it just will not work. Consider and come to terms with the fact that the relationship was just not meant to be.