One thing we do as women, we bring baggage from our past relationships into our current relationship. We compare our mate to past boyfriends; we may share past sexual experiences. My experience has been that HE DOES NOT WANT TO HEAR IT! I have come to regret sharing my past, because it has been thrown into my face during arguments. It is as if he will not let me forget my past, or forget that I have told him.
I have to co-sign with you on this. Bringing baggage from past relationships is extemely detrimental to a new relationship. My feeling is this, he may want to hear it but he does not need to hear it. It's best not to share past sexual experiences/baggage and if you must get this sort of thing off of your chest, share it with a friend or person you trust; someone who is not going to throw it back up in your face.
ReplyDeleteI'm not too sure. One, having honesty in your relationship is always a good thing. It allows a certain freedom with the things you are able to say when with your spouse. Had I kept the fact that I was still friends with an old boyfiend of my mine both me and my spouse would not have this wonderful friend in our life. There are no expectations in this relationship just a healthy friendship that has lasted over 10 years.
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